1.30.2013

A Wildfire in an Ice Storm

Settle in, folks. this is the longest post I've ever written. For the first part of our birth story click here.



Sunday
The next day Josh and I decided to take a day of complete rest and try our hardest to get back to normal life. I stopped timing the braxton hicks contractions, we got panera for breakfast and skipped church to relax around the house. We watched a movie on Netflix and then took a nap. I really allowed myself to relax and let God's peace wash over me and trust in his timing.

After the nap we were both pretty hungry so we decided Jimmy John's was the perfect lunch. On the way to grab the late lunch we thought a matinee movie would be perfect for a relaxing Sunday afternoon. (Basically we were being complete bums :) )We bought tickets to see Zero Dark Thirty - which ended up being a great movie. To continue to get things back to normal we decided to stock our fridge with food for the week. (We had not been cooking meals at the house for days to avoid the mess and leftovers spoiling while we are in the hospital if we had the baby).

After grocery shopping we came home and played best of 5 games of Yatzee. We used to play that game ALL the time when we were dating in college and it was another perfect distraction from the pressure of going into labor. I felt totally relaxed and ready for whatever may happen.

With plans for lunch with a friend the next day and ingredients to make chili the next evening we headed to bed at 11:30.

Monday
Almost immediately once I laid down I started feeling cramps. I tried to sleep but the cramps kept coming in stronger and stronger waves. I changed positions. I used the rest room. I walked around the bedroom and no matter what these weren't subsiding. At 1:30 AM I decided to leave the bedroom so I wouldn't disturb Josh. I sat on the floor in the guest room and leaned against the side of the bed with my worship music playing on my phone. The contractions were about 4-6 minutes apart and came in waves exactly like I expected. I took deep breaths through each contraction and relaxed as well as I could, but the reality and excitement of this being real labor started to set in.

It was 2:30 at this point and I honestly was having a hard time calming down and getting overly excited about this being the real deal. We called our family to give them a status update so they could be on standby to head into town. Remembering what we were told in birth class I decided to shower and see if hot water could relax me. Not much luck with that, 3 (relatively) strong contractions 10 mins later I got out and woke up Josh telling him "This is it!" He got out of bed and decided to brew a pot of coffee and get the down stairs in order while I got ready and repacked our bags.

I called our doula, Ruth, and told her I wanted her to come over to give me some perspective. I had no idea how far along i might be because my contractions seemed so close together. Realizing this was the last time for getting ready on my own clock for a while i decided to take my time. I dried my hair. I put on make up. I put on my stretchy black skirt and grey tank top and then (ridiculously) curled my hair, topped with hair spray. (ha!)

I was curling my hair on the birth ball when Ruth arrived. I was have contractions through all of this and had to pause and breathe through each one, but was still acting relatively normal. After I was all "fancy for labor" (le sigh) we moved the party to the living room. Josh was great. He kept offering me water. Encouraging me to eat snacks and told me what a great job I was doing very calmly through these early labor contractions.

It was about 4:30 when i could no longer time my own contractions. they were getting stronger - like an intense menstrual cramp at first then a tightening that wouldn't stop all through my pelvis and lower back. The pain began feeling so strong that I couldn't stand straight and I was moaning pretty loudly through each one. I was leaning on the couch when Ruth suggested turning our arm chair around and leaning on that. it was super helpful because josh could be in front of me holding my hands and playing with my hair (already destroyed from my primping) and Ruth could put the rice sock on my back and press my hips together.

I was a bit obsessed with how far the contractions were apart and how long they were. I kept asking josh for an update on the average and would optimistically tell me they were getting closer or longer or distract me if for some reason things had slowed down.

by 5:30 i was exhausted and had to lay down. Willow snuggled up next to me with Josh at my head and Ruth by my feet i laid there in the quiet darkness of my living room surrounded by support FEELING like the contractions were getting to the point that I might be in transition. I rested as much as I could. Sipping water and juice. I had heard that chills and burping might be a sign of transition and when I stood up from about 30 mins of rest my contractions accelerated and I could not stop shivering.

Looking at the clock we decided we we wait a little longer at home to see if got any pushing urges. I thought I felt some around 645 and we figured it was a good time to head into Vanderbilt. Shift change was at 7 and traffic would be better before the 8 am rush.

I dreaded the car ride. The contractions made it hard to sit normally or remain still and I was shaking like crazy. I had one really strong surge right when we got in the car and I wouldn't let josh move the car till it was over. Gripping his hand was the only thing I could think to do.

We finally got the wheels turning north on 65 and Josh called family to let them know we thought I was in transition and we were headed to the hospital. I realized I was STARVING on my way to the hospital and Josh was super prepared with peanut butter crackers, fig newtons, bananas, and drinks of all varieties. I ate two bananas and chugged a vitamin water.

It seemed like for 7am the traffic was unusually heavy in the Hillsboro village area and felt like it took for ever to make it the 3 mile stretch from the interstate to the hospital. I remember begging josh to avoid pot holes and nearly crying a few times when i felt like drivers were going to slow. All the while moaning my way loudly through each contraction.

We shuffled our way from valet parking to Triage where we were told to check in, Josh laden with bags and a giant birth ball, me scaring the other patients with loud moans and dramatically long pauses every 20 steps. At triage they asked us if Labor and Delivery knew we were coming. Ruth had called on our way in and they said they were ready for us so triage sent us on the hike (Seriously, not close...) to L&D. When we got there the L&D nurse looked at us like we were crazy and sent us back to Triage. Right when she told us to walk back, I had a strong contraction and bent over on her counter moaning. She looked at me like she had never seen a woman in labor before and looked at josh "Does she need a wheelchair?!" "I'm fine, I'm fine...." I replied and started shuffling my way back to Triage.

At triage they apologized and then told me to stand and fill out paper work. I was shocked, cause I really thought they had assured me all my forms were in the system since I was with the midwives. I literally couldn't make it through my name and phone number without another contraction. I dropped the pen and told josh to fill it out and they realized I needed a chair so they sent me to a room for my initial check - 20 mins to monitor contractions and baby's heart rate and to check blood pressure and dilation.

Since my dilation was at a 4 on Friday I was feeling optimistic for a 7 or 8 when they checked me on Monday morning after 8 hrs of strong contractions. Sadly when the midwife checked she said, "your at a good solid 5 CM, with 60% effacement that's being a bit conservative." My heart dropped....5?! 60%?! How did my effacement go backwards?! what the?!? Seriously?!?!

I almost asked her to check again, but she said "This is the good! It means you are in active labor and you can choose to stay if you want or go home. If you stay we have room 9 available." Room nine is the golden room. The best room in our eyes. It was actually the room we had been praying for, so I didn't want to leave and loose that room. I asked Josh and Ruth what they thought feeling a bit worried I would make the wrong decision and they assured me that what ever I choose would be great. So we stayed.

The nurse somehow convinced me to get an IV "Just in case" and I immediately regretted the decision since it took her a good 60 seconds of painful digging in my arm to find a vein and what she assured me was a small IV, ended up taking up most of my forearm once they covered it in tape and then wrapped it in plastic so I could be in the tub. Not to mention it was in my right arm and made it impossible to function. About an hour later I asked them to remove it and said we could put one in later if it was necessary.

Once we got to room 9 Josh and I decided to take a little walk. I was shuffling pretty slowly at this point so a small walk around L&D was all I could handle. After the walk I labored in the tub. It was so relaxing and gave me a good distraction and something new to think about during each wave. I labored in there for about an hour and decided to get out and try some contractions while standing. Each one had me moaning and quasi hyperventilating at the peek. I was exhausted and was sure how much more I take.

Josh suggested I try to rest. So for about 45 mins, Ruth left the room, Josh sat by my side and I slept for 3 min intervals waking up with each painful wave to grip his hand. I could tell the sun was up through the shades in the room and I realized I had completely lost track of time. Claire, the midwife came in around noon to check my progress. Again, I was hoping for a 7 or 8, but it turned out I was only at a 6.

Ruth kept encouraging me to change positions, but all I wanted to do was sit in the tub. We did several contractions with me on all 4s in the bed. We did some on the birth ball. We moved to the restroom. where during one particularly strong contraction, my water broke. Not a huge gush, but enough for me to recognize it.

I got back in the tub around 230 and continued to try my best to breathe deeply through each contractions. In the tub I remember getting extremely hot. I was sweating like crazy so josh and ruth starting placing cool wash cloths on my head shoulders and arms. The deep breathing made me so thirsty, so Josh was always at my side with a large drink of ice water.

In the tub, my contractions seemed more bearable, but Claire suggested I get out because they were slowing down in frequency. So I got out and decided to try standing in the shower. Again, it was a nice change of pace. I would turn and have the warm water hit my belly between contractions and then spin and put my head on the wall and have water on my back during each contraction. All the while, Josh standing just outside the shower holding my hand.

I remember looking at him at one point saying "This is so hard. I don't know if I can do it." and he looked at me and said "You are such a strong woman. I know you can."

After the shower I put back on dry clothes and went and sat in a rocking chair. My body felt so tired at this point. The only effort I felt I could expel was enough to sway the chair. I remember opening my eyes and Ruth and Josh were there with loving supportive looks on their faces and I couldn't even muster a half smile. I just closed my eyes again.

I was really getting to the point where I didn't think I could do it. I told Josh - "I want some drugs. I want something. I can't do this." So he lovingly suggested we send out to try the nitrous oxide and sent for the nurse. Two youngish looking girls brought the NO and during very intense contractions they seemed to fumble their way through turning the machine on. Then they tried to explain to me that I needed to put the mask on, and breathe normally through the contraction. I was laying on my side in the bed when they told me this and if I had any sense of humor at the time I may have laughed at them. I knew the surges were so strong it took everything in me to deeply breathe, and most of the time I was breathing very quickly through each one because of the pain. I tried the NO once and realized ordering it was a bad idea. "I can't use this." i said "It makes me feel weird. It tastes funny and there is no way I can breathe normally."

The two girls left the room. I kept looking at josh. On the verge of, or actually crying. I cant remember which. These contractions hurt so badly. I had to be close to 10 CM. Claire checked me again (Which was getting increasingly difficult and painful) and I was at 8. Still two whole CM to go, but close.

At this point some random guy walks in the room. I immediately say "Who is that? What is he doing in here?" He was followed by the two girls who were struggling with the Nitrous. He sat down next to the bed and introduced himself as the anesthesiologist. He fit every sterotype I expected. Loud. Arrogant. Pushy. In the middle of transition he barges into my room and started saying things like "Now...your in a lot of pain and we can help you with that pain. Let's talk about an epidural." I'm not sure I said it out loud, but I was thinking "Of course i'm in pain! I'm in labor!" I know what I did say out loud was an emphatic "No."

After jumping that hurdle on top of being in transition I got through another 45 mins of contractions the best I could. Claire checked me again and found I was at 9+ cm with a small part of the cervix left to fade. She suggested trying to hold it back through a contraction while I pushed to see if we could get the baby's head through. No luck.

I decided I would try and pee one final time, so I moved slowly from the bed to the rest room. Josh by my side I started REALLY feeling that urge to push. it was this bizarre internal spasm that I couldn't control. My whole being wanting to expel the baby. Claire kept urging me to breathe deeply through each wave and that only made my urges to push stronger. when I got back from the restroom, she checked one final time and I was at 10 and ready to push (as if i didn't already know...)

I glanced at the clock on the wall at the foot of my bed. It said 5:20. Sitting up on the edge of the bed with my feet by my bottom and grabbing a hold of the bar for support, Josh jumped in and started his breathing coaching. "Deep breath in. Blow it out. Deep breath in. Push..." It was so nice to focus my energy on something other than the intensity of the pain. Every now and then Josh would watch while I pushed and then look at me and say "Things are happening! Your doing great!" After about an hour of pushing in this position Ruth again, suggested a position change, and I'm SO glad that she did. She said "Let's lay down and see if we can't get this baby through your pelvis."

I found it hard to get my 2nd and 3rd pushes in after one really strong push at the start of each contraction, but then Claire said those last two pushes were the ones where the most progress is typically made, so I found the energy to at least get 2 solid pushes in on good contractions. There were some contractions where I would start pushing and realize it wasn't going to be an effective push cause it was a smaller contraction so I would rest. Sip water. Stare at the clock ticking time forward. Praying that vacuum and forceps wouldn't have to be used.

At 7, there was a shift change. New nurse. New midwife - Lori, who I loved. This brought a fresh energy in the room. The new nurse suggested we set up a mirror. I was unsure about that, but Lori said  "It will help you know how to push and you will be able to see what is happening." So of course I said yes. I needed anything that could help me as we approached the 2 hour mark.

The mirror was completely strange, but I'm SO glad I used it. I could see the baby's head with my next push! It made me want to get that 2nd and 3rd push in even more! Like expected, at first his head would come a little bit further out each time and slide back in after the contraction. Eventually, it stopped sliding back in and there was what looked like a bone white head crowing. Now is when I kept expecting the "ring of fire" everyone talked about, but it never came. All I remember was it hurting and it made it incredibly hard to want to push, even though I knew there was no turning back now! I

Lori was amazing and had such a positive encouraging attitude. She let my body take the lead 99% of the time and would help coach me that extra 1% when she knew I needed it. He head was most of the way out, and I remember looking down saying "There's something wrong with the baby's face!" because what I saw was one weird eye, a smushed nose and no mouth. Thankfully Lori said "That's not the baby's face, it's the back of his head" (I found out later, Josh was thinking the same thing I was but was too afraid to say something).

40 mins of pushing later at 7:42, I prayed "Jesus, help me!" and I gave one really strong push and the baby's head came half way out. Breathe out. Breathe in. PUSH! and out came the rest of the baby's head! For some reason I was think I got a break after that and would be able to wait, but Lori looked at me and said, "I need you to keep pushing, push really hard" So I did! While I watched her wiggle little shoulders out of me and then a long BIG baby slid out followed by a lot of blood and fluids!

I just started laughing. Laughing as hard as I could. I absolutely couldn't contain my joy as they lifted the baby up to my chest. I looked down and saw 2 things....1. the baby decided to poop right as it was being born and 2. it was a boy! I declared through laughing "it's a boy, it's a boy" and looked at josh, who was also laughing hysterically! We were both so happy!
Moments after being born - laughter filling the room.
They placed little Felix on my chest and he gave a few good cries and I just kept laughing! Every little thing I discovered about him made me laugh! Brought me so much joy! He had a perfect little face. So cute! He had HUGE hands and HUGE feet. His cry was so sweet and sad. He had little peach fuzz on top of his head, but was mostly bald. I was so in love with him instantly!

After the cord stopped pulsing, Josh was offered the chance to cut it. Lori had a hard time clamping the cord cause it was so thick and Josh said the scissors had a hard time getting through it as well. I had a small 2nd degree tear, and Lori stitched me up while they did all they could with Felix on my chest. After she was done stitching me, they pulled him away to weigh him. He was 10 pounds even.  I was shocked. I couldn't believe I just delivered a 10 pound baby!

We were flooded with family. Our parents came back first. My mom cried and made me cry. I loved seeing all 4 grandparents doting on their new grandson. My Son! I had a son! It was slowly sinking in, but it was still hard to believe that this perfect little creature was mine! Part me. Part Josh. Living and breathing. No longer inside of me, but being held by our loved ones. Watching my husband hold him in his big hands melted my heart. Seeing my sisters ooo and ahh over him made me so proud!

Still today, the whole labor experience seems surreal. It doesn't feel like I was the person who went through all of that and came out on the other side with a new life to care for. I'm so thankful we were able to go into labor naturally and deliver without the use of drugs or an epidural. I'm so thankful for the support of loved ones who traveled to be there to welcome our little one. I'm so thankful for the team at the hospital who helped with a safe and natural delivery. I'm so thankful for my doula who was a constant calming voice throughout the process. And I'm incredibly thankful for my husband who was a steady stream of encouragement and strong place to lean into throughout the 20 hour process and beyond.

We are so in love and look forward to adventures to come with our little Felix Fire. Our wildfire who came and melted our hearts during an ice storm.

1.19.2013

Welcome Felix Fire


This past Monday, January 14th, Josh and I welcomed our son Felix Fire Michael into the world. I can't believe 5 days have gone by already with this little man in our lives. Life feels like a whirl wind and the entire past week still feels a bit surreal and we are already completely in smitten with our little prince. 

I really want to document the events leading up to the birth of our son, because I felt the Lord's hand in every step of the way leading to our answered prayers of a completely natural and unmedicated spontaneous labor delivery of our baby. I'll start with last Thursday, Friday and Saturday in today's post and write subsequent ones leading up to his birth. Buckle in. :)

Thursday
Last Thursday, January 10th we had our 40 week Midwife appointment. At the 39 week appointment my blood pressure was slightly elevated so I was a bit anxious about getting my blood pressure checked that week. Regardless of what it said, I was mentally preparing for at least another week of being pregnant.

No surprise, due to my anxiety, my BP was high when the nurse checked it so I was gave them a urine sample to test for protein and rule out Pre Eclampsia. The results came back at a +2, which isn't good and the Midwife we saw that day (who we were meeting for the first time) told us we needed to immediately head over to the hospital for further tests and a high chance of induction.

I had heard of this kind of "panic" leading to induction happening to many people around their 40 week mark so I started asking some additional questions. Can I retake the urine test? What are my options? Can I recheck blood pressure in 15 mins or so after laying down, etc. The midwife was not helpful started making me feel like me and my baby were in imminent danger if we didn't go to the hospital right away. It obviously upset me and I was in tears (which isn't hard to do) but she also upset Josh (which is VERY hard to do) so we asked if there was someone else we could see.

A different midwife came in and spoke to me. She did a MUCH better job of calming me but at the same time explaining the risks if I was in fact pre eclamptic. She had me lay down and retook my blood pressure - which came back completely normal and then did a catheter urine sample to recheck protein levels. (apparently discharge can throw a protein count so internal check is more accurate). That sample came back completely clean! With that, they said they would draw my blood in the office (rather than sending me to the hospital) and let me do a 24 hr urine sample. 

I was so relieved! I had at least another day to mentally prepare for possible induction and to try and get active labor going in any way possible. I was checked at 3 cm dilation and 60% effacement and had my membranes stripped before we left the appointment. The rest of the day I had crampy early labor/braxton hicks contractions. They were about 8 - 15 minutes apart. Josh and I tried our best to relax and get the house in order, incase the next day we would need the induction, all the while prayed for spontaneous labor to start. 

Friday
Friday morning we slept in. Braxton Hicks contractions has slowed down in the morning and I was feeling a bit discouraged. Around noon, we got a call from Josh's parents saying they were in town and wanted to do lunch. It was a big surprise to find they drove 4.5 hrs the night before and stayed in a hotel in KY just incase I went into labor in the middle of the night. 

It was nice to have them there as a distraction from "trying" to go into labor...We went to lunch and then headed up to drop off my 24 hr urine sample and get the blood results back. 

At their office we found the blood work came back clean! Which was a HUGE relief. My blood pressure was normal when I laid down for a few minutes on one side. Another HUGE relief. Linda - the midwife we met with, was beyond encouraging. She said they would strip my membranes again and then get back to me that night about how the 24 hr urine test went. She said the number needed to be under 300 to avoid scheduling an induction. 

Linda checked my cervix and said I was at 4 CM and 80% effaced! Another huge answer to prayer - the early labor/braxton hicks my body worked on the day before gave me a bit of progress!

Josh and I left the appointment feeling SO encouraged and praying that the 24 hr test would come back clean and specifically we repeated "Lord, give us the weekend to go into labor on our own. Please, just give us the weekend."

After the appointment we went to get some coffee at Fido and then took willow on a long walk waiting for Linda to call with the results. I had really come to a peaceful place about everything. If I wound up with an induction, everything would be OK. It wouldn't be what we really wanted, but either way we would finally meet our baby. 

While we were on the walk, I received the call from Linda. She said "You missed the cut off by 30 points..." and feeling a bit of defeat and feeling seeing pitocin in my near future I steadily said "Ok, so what are the next steps?" Linda replied, well you get another week because your number was 270." A wave of relief washed over me. "Oh! So I MADE the cut off? I don't have to be induced!?" "Correct," Linda replied. "Let's try and get that baby out naturally!"

When I got of the phone Josh literally jumped in the air and said "Praise the Lord!" 

We had gone from Thursday morning feeling like induction was inevitable to Friday night having another entire week to go into labor naturally.

Saturday 
Braxton hicks contractions continued all night Friday night and into Saturday morning. We went out to breakfast at the new coffee house in downtown franklin called Froth Monkey and then took a 2 mile walk in the spitting rain to see if contractions would intensify. 

After the walk downtown we decided the rain was getting to be a bit much and would head to the mall. I continued to have early labor crampy feelings at regular intervals, but the intensity wasn't picking up. We went home to rest, shower and keep praying for things to pick up on their own.

Feeling discouraged by the "maybe this is real labor...oh no, probably not" back and forth and a bit like a watched pot that would never boil, we headed out that evening to a friends house for another distraction. Even though I was in a completely crummy mood, grilled pizzas, my nieces and friends around us and football on the TV did allow me to relax a bit. 

We went to bed that night with the same braxton hicks contractions and the same prayer. "Let us go into labor spontaneously." Feeling hopeful and excited to finally meet our baby.

1.09.2013

Bring on 2013


Joining the masses in the obligatory New Year's blog post - even though mine is a week late.

2012 was amazing. 2013 will be even better.

2012 Highlights:

Launched My Etsy shop - Voyage Vintage and announced a new business venture - Voyage Creatives

God's perfectly beautiful timing with the loss of my job and the opening of new job opportunities for Josh.

Transitioned rather smoothly from a 9-5 to a stay-at-home-person pursuing passions and dreaming.

Traveled to Connecticut and New York City for our 5th Anniversary. Read books out loud to Josh in the car. Ate amazing food. Saw long lost friends. Wept at the 9/11 memorial. Smiled till our faces hurt at a musical. Soaked in amazing art. Became addicted to live polo games.

Took a trip to Vegas. Soaked in the sun. Snuggled. Realized I could easily be a gambling addict and thanked God there isn't a casino near Nashville.

Was blessed like crazy by 3 amazing baby showers in Illinois, Ohio, and Tennessee.

Found out we were expecting and prepared space in our home and hearts for the bébé.

Soaked in our final moments as a family of 2 with just a low-maintenance fur-baby and spent TONS of time with friends.

Hopes for 2013:

  • Drink more water.
  • Drink more delicious wine. (Won't be hard to do considering I was preggo most of 2012)
  • Have a baby as naturally as possible. (Maybe even today!)
  • Walk more.
  • Remain present and cherish the early days of mommy-hood.
  • Watch my husband transform into a daddy and journey into parentdom by his side.
  • Write more.
  • Be thankful and savor small moments of goodness.
  • Read more.
  • Fully launch Voyage Creatives as freelance marketing, design,  and photography services.


It's crazy that any day now I will have my body back. I honestly loved being pregnant. I'm really excited to meet our little one, but I am going to miss this stage of life. Growing a human and letting God prepare my heart, mind and body for becoming a mom - I've really enjoyed all he has taught me and the closeness I've felt to my bébé and Josh.

I could use all of your prayer as we approach our due date - January 12th. I really desire to go into labor without induction and to deliver naturally. So prayer for strength and for my body and our little bug's body to function perfectly over the next few days/weeks. Also, pray for perfect health and smooth transition into life with a baby.

With that said - I leave you with a couple of photos from my 39 week maternity shoot with Mel from Angel Wings Photography last weekend.