The more I thought about it the more I thought it would be impossible because i didn't just want a girlfriend...I want a close girlfriend, who has the same beliefs as me, who is funny, likes music, who wants to spend lots of time together, who is in a similar stage of life (i.e. married, no kids, working, yadda, yadda...) and whose hubby also liked my hubby and was someone who I can encourage and watch grow while at the same time I could look up to as a mentor and example for myself... a bosom buddy as Anne of Green Gables might say...and then I realized...that person probably doesn't exist.
Then I got really sad. There is no one who could possibly fill shoes so big. It would be amazing, nay a miracle, if someone had all those characteristics and just happen to live in the same area as me (because we all know proximity is one of the biggest factors in keeping a friendship alive)...and then it happened.
I tried to stop it from happening and think about all the blessings God has poured on me. Be thankful. Be gracious. Be Joyful...but it felt really fake. and alone in my room. laying on my new green bed spread with shiny purple pillows, I cried.
I cried for about 30 mins. I cried while starring at the celing. I cried into Willows fur. I cried into and probably ruined the shiny pillows. I cried with my eyes shut. I cried till my lids were all puffy and my nose running with snot and salty tears streaming across my face and into my ears and then Josh got home.
He asked why I was crying. and I told him. And he understood. He gets that while he is my best friend and I LOVE spending time with him and telling him everything, that I need some solid spirit filled women to surround me and walk with me through life as well.
I'm a very social person and I'm also a very loyal friend. In high school I had 3 or 4 really close friends. We did everything together. In college I had 3 or 4 really close friends. We did everything together. And now...after 3 years in Nashville...I feel like I have hardly any close friendship ties with anyone. It feels like everyone I know is a distant aquaintence that I see once every 2 or 3 months because all of our lives are so busy... too busy for acquaintances anyway...
I told Josh "I feel like we could up and leave this area and no one would really miss us when we were gone...except for maybe Kitty and Jon." (our pastors.)
Then he prayed for me. He prayed that the Lord would bring my dream friend into my life and that we would find encouragement here or that he would open a door for us to go somewhere else.
I doubt that will happen. Buying a condo with a mortgage payment in this economy basically nails us to this area. Not to mention we both have great jobs and we would be crazy to just give up and leave after investing 3 years here...right?
I dunno - sorry to be depressing today. I'm just spilling my heart out all over the place today...i guess it's my blog so that's okay. If you're still reading...pray for friends...no A friend...to come.
I'll leave you with something slightly less depressing and actually kind of hopeful...Lisa Gungor. She inspires me to write music.